Blog post from a woman who struggled with IF. Always good to know you are not alone!
http://joannagoddard.blogspot.com/2011/10/motherhood-mondays-what-if-you-cant.html#more
The Root of the Problem
5 years ago
Saturday, October 8, 2011
Saturday, October 1, 2011
Brick walls...
The brick walls are there for a reason. The brick walls are not there to keep us out; the brick walls are there to give us a chance to show how badly we want something. The brick walls are there to stop the people who don't want it badly enough. They are there to stop the other people! - Randy Pausch
So, the agency we have been on the waiting list to go to orientation for the last 5 months is moving back its enrollment until January. This means even more waiting, or a change of game plan. We have decided to keep them in our back pocket, but to attack this adventure more head on. So, we created a website and are going to look into Private Party Adoption - where you try it without an agency. If you know of anyone, please pass on our webpage:
https://sites.google.com/site/jamjacksonfamily
We are also opening up to international adoption if we can find one that is not too expensive and doesn't require too much time off; we've got to keep our jobs to pay for the adoption, right?
So, we are asking for prayers and support through this time. I know God can see the end and it is for His glory!
So, the agency we have been on the waiting list to go to orientation for the last 5 months is moving back its enrollment until January. This means even more waiting, or a change of game plan. We have decided to keep them in our back pocket, but to attack this adventure more head on. So, we created a website and are going to look into Private Party Adoption - where you try it without an agency. If you know of anyone, please pass on our webpage:
https://sites.google.com/site/jamjacksonfamily
We are also opening up to international adoption if we can find one that is not too expensive and doesn't require too much time off; we've got to keep our jobs to pay for the adoption, right?
So, we are asking for prayers and support through this time. I know God can see the end and it is for His glory!
Thursday, September 22, 2011
For those who wait
Another day, another waiting game
A little different but it's still the same
I am here, but where's the one I'm longing for?
I'm having trouble feeling all alone
Will my heart ever find a home?
I want to hope but sometimes I just don't know
I know I'm not the only one
So we sing a lullaby to the lonely hearts tonight
Let it set your heart on fire, let it set you free
When you're fighting to believe
In a love that you can't see
Just know there is a purpose
For those who wait
I want to open up my eyes
I know that all I need is time
I'm growing stronger every single day
God, I'm going to lean into You now
Letting go of all my fear and doubt
I can't do this on my own so I'll give You control
I know I’m not the only one
The pressure makes us stronger
The struggle makes us hunger
The hard lessons make the difference
The pressure makes us stronger
The struggle makes us hunger
The hard lessons make the difference
And the difference makes it worth it
~Fireflight
A little different but it's still the same
I am here, but where's the one I'm longing for?
I'm having trouble feeling all alone
Will my heart ever find a home?
I want to hope but sometimes I just don't know
I know I'm not the only one
So we sing a lullaby to the lonely hearts tonight
Let it set your heart on fire, let it set you free
When you're fighting to believe
In a love that you can't see
Just know there is a purpose
For those who wait
I want to open up my eyes
I know that all I need is time
I'm growing stronger every single day
God, I'm going to lean into You now
Letting go of all my fear and doubt
I can't do this on my own so I'll give You control
I know I’m not the only one
The pressure makes us stronger
The struggle makes us hunger
The hard lessons make the difference
The pressure makes us stronger
The struggle makes us hunger
The hard lessons make the difference
And the difference makes it worth it
~Fireflight
Monday, September 19, 2011
Dora the Explorer
We have been going to Collin College every Tuesday and Thursday night for 2.5 hours to take Spanish I. We want our child(ren) to be bilingual, so we have to be too! It is pretty tough! If we hadn't already had 3 years of Spanish in high school, we would be sunk! Anywho, here is the list of words for tomorrow's quiz! See how well you can do!
Monday, August 15, 2011
FREE Adoption Conference
We are registered for a FREE adoption conference, hosted by the Irving Bible Church's Tapestry Ministry. The conference is from 8:45 - 3:30 on October 29th. More details can be found here if you want to come!
Sunday, August 14, 2011
Tuesday, July 12, 2011
The big IF...
The big IF is infertility. If you are going down the road of adoption due to infertility, know that there needs to be some grieving. I didn't put much thought to this since I knew we would end up with a baby eventually and thought that was all I was grieving about. However, I have joined an online support group (as I can't find ANY nearby) and learned that it's not that easy. One woman posted this from a book she is reading:
"... there are multiple losses which are a consequence of permanent infertility: 1) control over many aspects of life; 2) individual genetic continuity linking past and future; 3) the joint conception of a child with one's life partner; 4) the physical satisfactions of pregnancy and birth; 5) the emotional gratifications of pregnancy and birth; and 6) the opportunity to parent."
The only one of these that adoption "cures" is the 6th one, opportunity to parent. Alas, you never know when/if that is coming. So my advice to you in the same boat as us is to find friends, family members, online support, counseling, whatever to help you through this. You want to be emotionally ready for when your future baby does come. Also, keeping busy and your eye on the prize always helps. :)
~ m ~
"... there are multiple losses which are a consequence of permanent infertility: 1) control over many aspects of life; 2) individual genetic continuity linking past and future; 3) the joint conception of a child with one's life partner; 4) the physical satisfactions of pregnancy and birth; 5) the emotional gratifications of pregnancy and birth; and 6) the opportunity to parent."
The only one of these that adoption "cures" is the 6th one, opportunity to parent. Alas, you never know when/if that is coming. So my advice to you in the same boat as us is to find friends, family members, online support, counseling, whatever to help you through this. You want to be emotionally ready for when your future baby does come. Also, keeping busy and your eye on the prize always helps. :)
~ m ~
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