Monday, May 25, 2015

All Systems Are Go!

We have chosen an agency! It was actually the largest process of elimination we have ever embarked upon: 71 agencies across 7 countries. We were able to narrow down quite a bit based on basic info available online. We contacted 10 agencies and heard back from 8. The agencies serving Latin American countries dropped off our list mostly because the wait times were still too long for us. Several of the agencies serving Asia just didn't pan out for a variety of logistical reasons. All that left us with one: Holt International - South Korea, which happens to be the first and largest agency serving South Korea since the 70s. They average ~100 placements per year - massive compared to the domestic agency we worked with before that averaged 4-5/yr. Anyway, it is roughly a two year program and right now the long pole in the tent is us! We submitted our application online last week and have been furiously filling out forms since then. This is the packet we got in the mail:
We've started a to-do list off all the things that need to be done or gathered, etc. It feels a bit like a Zelda quest at times:
  • Sign & Notarize IASA (Holt's International Adoption Services Agreement)
  • Photos of family & house
  • Taxes Records
  • Schedule of Fees Form
  • Transmittal Memo
  • Family Service Plan
  • Birth Parent Openness Form
  • Psychological Evaluation
  • Home Study Application
  • Autobiographies
  • Marriage Data Sheets
  • Parenting Data Sheets
  • Medical History & Examinations
  • Medical Statement on Child in Adoptive Applicant’s Home
  • Budget Sheet
  • Verification of Income
  • 4 Reference Letters
  • Photo/Media Release
  • Criminal History
  • Firearms Safety Verification
  • International Adoption Contract/Financial Agreement for Korea
  • Forms Receipt Acknowledgement
  • Home Study
  • I800A Form
I'm sure more things will come up as we go along. While it seems overwhelming to read, knowing that we've done it all before gives us confidence. The thing we are most anxious about is traveling to and adopting from a country that is literally on the other side of the world from where we had originally planned on going. I wonder if Rosetta Stone will let us trade in our Spanish CDs? Oh well. 
Nevertheless, we are very excited about this new adventure. We will be updating the Costs/Fees page shortly to include a breakdown of the Korea program. In the meantime, please pray for energy and determination. Thanks!

Saturday, April 4, 2015

Back in the Saddle!

Well, it has been much longer than anticipated, but we are finally starting up the adoption effort again! Actually about a year late, since our 2013 Christmas letter said we'd be starting back up in early 2014. If you didn't see our most recent Christmas letter, 2014 was a year of changes for us. We both had side jobs, John got a new primary job, we sold our house, and we moved. All those changes left us with little time. Also our precious little girl just started sleeping through the night consistently about a month ago, so we are slowly getting our energy back for extracurricular activities.

That brings us to now, and in addition to starting the adoption back up, we are also announcing that we've turned our sights to international adoption! After going on mission to South America, we've had a heart for orphans abroad. It was always our plan for child #2 to be from another country, so we are just picking up where we left off.

If you hadn't guessed, we are quite interested in children from Latin American countries. We've done a fair amount of preliminary research on the agencies & programs that serve these countries. http://www.rainbowkids.com/ is a great resource for finding up-to-date information on adoption programs around the world. A general trend that we've noticed with the Latin American programs is the children tend to be older (4+). Because we want our biological child to be the oldest in the home (and is also required universally), we would have to probably wait another couple years before even submitting an application. Another common requirement is that the final visit to the country be many weeks long, like 8 weeks on average! This is not impossible to do but very challenging on many levels. Nevertheless, we have identified a handful of agencies serving Ecuador, Panama, and Honduras with younger children and shorter travel requirements.

We are also considering the Far East. The programs are very similar in each country, and they all have shorter stays than the Latin American countries. It is also more likely that we'd be able to be matched with a toddler. So far we have found prospective agencies serving South Korea, China, and Taiwan.

So the next steps for us are to start contacting the agencies for basic info. We will post again after narrowing down the selection. Please pray that God would direct and guide our search to find the next little one!

Sunday, March 24, 2013

Surprise!

God has a funny way of changing our best laid plans and then sometimes changing them again.  We thought we had figured out how our family would be built, but the Lord has surprised us yet again.  On New Years Eve, we learned God had preformed a miracle: we are expecting!  Not only will we get to start our family this year, but all three of us will be sharing a cake as baby is due in August.

Since you are reading this on our blog, you are probably wondering, like others, "Are you guys still adopting?"  Absolutely we are!  We talked with our agency and they said we need to wait 6 months after the birth before we can resume the process.  We appreciate everyone's love, support and prayers on our journey!  This is still an on-going process, as it won't be long before we are a waiting family again.

This blog will be updated for adoption purposes only, but we will be posting pregnancy updates on our Facebook group (The JaM Expansion Project).

To God be the glory.
~JaM

Thursday, February 21, 2013

Quarterly Adoption Training - February 2013 Edition

We had our second training session a few weeks ago.  We learned about medications that can and cannot be given to our child when we are in the 6 month "waiting" period before finalization.  We will also be having to document every medication given and every dosage given.  It does seem a little overwhelming, but I understand the reasoning behind it.

They also showed us a video presentation from some prenatal exposure experts.  These researchers have been studying the prenatal exposure effects of drugs, alcohol, vaccines, etc.  It was a very interesting presentation and surprisingly, not as scary as I thought it would be.  Obviously, smoking, drugs, and alcohol are not good for an unborn baby, but I was surprised at how low the percentages were of the birth defects or mental retardation.  Anyways, they have a whole website of information if you would like to see.

We were also given a "list" of the expectant mothers they are currently working with.  Last time, there were 7 mothers and 11 couples.  This time, there were 5 mothers and 9 couples.  Doing the math (and because she told us), they placed two babies in December!!  How awesome is that!?!  I believe it will be awhile until our baby comes home, but it is always good news that there are placements happening and families forming!

Not much else going on right now besides waiting.  We have been wanting to get a dresser for the nursery, but any decent ones are $500-$600.  So I will continue searching craigslist in hopes of finding a used one for closer to half that! 

Thank you again for your support and prayers through this journey.  Please also being praying for our friends, the Kings & Hallocks as they have been told their wait will be another 3-6 months longer.  I know how hard the waiting is; to be so close to the end you can taste it and then be told it will be even longer would be a hard thing for me to take.  I know God has a plan in all our situations; we just have to keep the faith and rely on Him.

Wednesday, January 16, 2013

Puzzle Progress!

Just wanted to show you some of our puzzle progress!


The hardest part is not only finding where the pieces go, but trying to keep the groups together.  (I bet once we get into the actual elephants themselves, it will be even harder...)  We have two more families to put together as of now and hopefully will have those done by the weekend!  So very blessed by those who love and support us on this journey!  :)

Monday, December 3, 2012

To Whom It May Concern

Why are you so far from me?
In my arms is where you ought to be
How long will you make me wait?
I don't know how much more I can take

I missed you
But I haven't met you
Oh but I want to
How I do

Slowly counting down the days
Till I finally know your name
 ...

 I missed you
But I haven't met you
Oh but I want to
How I do, How I do

I've missed you
But I haven't met you
Oh how I've missed you
But I haven't met you
Oh but I want to
Oh how I want to

Dear who ever you might be
I'm still waiting patiently

 ~ The Civil Wars

Wednesday, November 28, 2012

The Gift

Thought this story was too beautiful not to share! Praying that our story will look something like this!!